Quote --------- it's not the frequency that is the problem, but who initiates it. Initiating sex SHOWS that you are desired. My wife has not initiated sex in 8 years. If I have to initiate the sex, I will hardly even give her credit for having sex --------
I don't think this is very fair, sorry, its the way I see it. All I was saying is whats wrong with both of you initiating sex? If you could get her to the point of initiating sex say about 30% of the time, wouldn't that show you she loves you? If you could get her to that point, would that not be a BIG improvement? The way you were talking sounded like unless she initiated sex 100% of the time you would still not be happy? Is there no compromise with you?
I understand the need for physical fulfilment, believe me, I know, but there has to be a compromise somewhere in the equation between 2 seemingly different people. You have to be willing to come down just a little and she has to be willing to go up some. Wheather we like it or not people and situations change. Change happens everyday. We, as intelligent humans have to be willing to make changes to deal with it. I'm not saying you have to learn to live without anything physical, just that maybe you need to compromise with her to make it better for yourself.
