Yeah, the narc behaviour is hard to deal with because they need us to be nice and engage.

They get emtional pay off no matter what way we engage good or bad. In fact if we engage with a narc in a bad way they actually get a bigger pay off.

The best way to engage with a narc is have a picture of a grey boring rock in your head.
Don't give them any bones.

So sort of validate wow really, wow that's bad, or wow that's good. Just listen non committal statements. Really true db, it's not about you but about them getting the pay off.

M 46 h54
Both married before
T 11y
Bd 2/14 I must see where ow leads!
Ms 18 hs 26