Actually I think its quite easy for her, she's always been great at holding grudges. Plus in her sister and new closest friend she has some pretty toxic characters to feed her.

I am still stressing her but there is nothing I can do about this. I say this becauseI found out how she sees things while I still could access (snoop) her messages.

Pretty much anything I did was labeled in really negative terms. Playing with the kids was 'sickly parenting mood',
questioning a story that didn't make any logical sense was abusive and mean,
asking for more time with the kids was seen as bullying. Actually bothering to be concerned about D3s school application was blackmail,
doing her a favour resulted in a presumption that I would somehow make her pay,
taking 2 days to consult a solicitor was 'pathetic retribution' and my personal favourite - misplaced trousers means I must have stolen them.

So right now I think even saying hello to her is seen as me being controlling and mean. But so would saying nothing.

The lamb was delicious by the way

Both mid 30s, 2 young kids
BD 7sep14
XW moved on long ago, now living with OM1
D paperwork in progress