Susana (4) - Do you have to be confusin'?

[susana4]

Thanks too for the suggestion on fixing something!
He's actually been saying he was going to fix the kitchen cabinets but hasn't yet, I wasn't going to bring it up though because I was worried it might come across as nagging or that you are trying to replace him.

Any suggestions on phrasing to make it seem not like nagging?

One of the suggestions from a book I read was to grab the tools and start doing the work. Your husband will then feel a little panic and pitch in. This would work for me, not sure about your situation though. With him pulling back it may feel like nagging. Another suggestion would be to ask his opinion on what may be wrong with the cabinet. It could be rough waters to cross right now though.

I was more suggesting to try and include him in the snack preparation. It sounds like he loves to cook so that is even better. My W and I have a strong bond over food and find most of the times we have a great rapport is over food or wine. We had one last night, after going over the D papers (yeah weird situation).

My suggestion was about possibly tapping into his Mr. Fix-it tendencies to boost his ego.

I know I would jump at the occasion to help my W open a bottle of wine if I heard her muttering "this stupid wine opener is giving me fits, ugggh!" I would feel manly that I got to pitch in and I got a glass of wine.

Thanks Gogofo, that makes sense. I could see how starting to work on it would make him jump in although yes, given that he's in pulling back mode, might not be the best timing.

The cabinet will survive (well sort of, the bottoms fallen halfway out of the drawer lol). So I think I'll just leave it until he comes out of pull back mode and starts coming back towards me (assuming he does).

That's not a bad idea, I'm sure I could accidentally pick out a difficult to open wine bottle really though, H loves a good glass of wine.