I'm adding a little to my post from yesterday. I had to contact my WAW (via text for the record) asking her to cancel our landline -- it's in her name and she hasn't been following thru. Anyway, she finally replied and said she did. I probably should've run this by the group, but since I had her attention, I sent her this text:

"If you're sure you'll be happy never seeing me again then so be it. We had a great run together, didn't we?"

Now, for the record, she has never said she'll be happy never seeing me again. Sometimes, when we do speak, I might blurt out that I miss her and she replies immediately that she misses me, too. It sounds so sincere. Who knows except my wife? I'm sure this makes her think I'm trying to get her to change her mind about the D.

So, here is her reply to my text ^^^ the last paragraph:
"A pretty fair one, I'd say. Now, I just need my life back, and if you don't get what that means, maybe ask your counselor. Ciao"

I have already asked my therapist what that means and he said it means different things to different people, and that he thinks I deserve to know what she means by that. She has not replied.

Anyone out there, especially the ladies, have any idea what she might mean? I think my over-protectiveness of her (she has MS) is the main issue. Now, I know how wrong I was but she either refuses to believe me or has emotionally moved on.

I am so heart-broken. Nothing or nobody in this world means more to me than my wife, children and step-children. And yes, I have mentioned this to my wife.

I hope things are getting better for all of you! Hang in there.

Bob


Me:55 yrs/W:51 yrs (has MS)
M:14 yrs
T:15 yrs
No children together--3 each from previous marriages
Wife Moved Out: 10/19/14
Wife Filed for Divorce: 10/20/14
Divorce Final: 10/21/15