I think it has to be genuine, you have to really BE at that place. Then you deliver it whenever. Unlike almost every other suggested script, this one DOES get proactively delivered (as opposed to "only when it's in context and in response to something she says/does").
The gist of it is "You know what? I've been thinking about it, and this really isn't working for me either. You've been trying to tell me this (that you no longer want to be married to me) for awhile now, and I guess I not only wasn't listening to you, but I wasn't thinking for MYSELF, either, and this really isn't working for me either! I realize now that I deserve better than this. Why would I want to be with someone who doesn't want to be with me?"
It's very counter-intuitive, and I do think it has to be GENUINE and not just some TACTIC. And it also has to be in line with your own values.
It's probably closer to DB than some of the other things we've been discussing, because DBing is all about letting them go and doing your own thing to improve, and to really HEAR them, and also to "do what works." And I've definitely seen this work.
