You know, I think that a lot of women initiate in very subtle ways, such as jutting their bottoms out so that contact is inevitable..or positioning their bodies in such a way that their breasts are rightthere. Or they put their legs up on their husbands. Or rub their husbands stomachs, things like that.
The problem with such actions is that there is too much room for misinterpreting it. And what on one night would be considered her initiating would some other night be considered her just wanting to cuddle. The line is too blurry. So we HD people misinterpret the signals and either miss out on an opportunity (WHY they can't just say, Hey I was trying to initiate but you're missing it, silly!) or we read too much into an innocent affection and then look like an ass for trying.
I know that my H gets a lot more affectionate when he wants sex. I usually realize this after the fact, I am sorry to say. Because it is the usual affection--pecks, hugs--just more of them. So I think he is just being lovey dovey. You'd think I'd catch on but I have conditioned myself to NOT read sex into his every move so that I am not continually disappointed.
One of these days I will get my nerve up and when H starts kissing me more I will realize what he is up to and suggest we make love that night. Keep your fingers crossed that I am not wrong about these signals of his!
