The most telling part when you texted her, was when you lingered to see if she responded to your "ILY". When she didn't, you should have said nothing, instead of coming back with " well anyway", b/c that told off on ya. Do you see what I mean? To me, it appeared you were waiting for her to give you some kind of positive feedback for texting her. Like you were waiting for her to, at the least, respond with, "ILY too!!". Was it your W, or another one I'm thinking about, that said you always wanted "more". If so, that is going to continue being rough for you until she can give more.
Yes, you are way too sensitive. Which, you have a right to be, however, you are your own worst enemy at the moment.
This morning I wrote a long post to you, but then decided not to send it. After I read Vanilla & Wonka's post, I thought their advice was best. You would have to be waaaay too cool, calm & collected to do what I had in mind. (I'm talking Starsky cool, here. ) Oh yeah, and ready to turn lose, like you claim. You just aren't there yet.
You live in a "reaction" stage to her, and that just won't cut it. It may have something to do with why she thinks you go from one extreme of coldness to the other extreme of bullying. Try to find an even keel.
You wanted to know how to communicate without talking? I'd start through actions.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
) Oh yeah, and ready to turn lose, like you claim. You just aren't there yet. 
