Part 13 - contents (un)lucky for some

[edz]

We both both have simlair issues

Fix it, lack of patience and weight.

I'm still not getting 100% control yet! On any score.

You're doing great matey, sometimes its not the final destination but about what we learn on the journey

Fix It (Mr and Ms 'I know') are just aspects we need to channel properly. I know Mr F helps out in lots of the skills I have but just negatively impacts me with interpersonal skills. Not sure if thats what you find?

Your weight comments seem to say you're doing really really well. This is the second time in my life I've lost "lots" of weight, first time was in my 20s and I dumped a lot (really a lot) very quickly but this time its slower. Remember the slower and steadier the loss the more you can tone at the same time (and also the body ahem "reshapes" easier!)

Patience I hear you on, I'm patient with everyone else but myself and I'd have to admit my sitch. I have to be patient as its not mine to control unless I say ok I'm done and call it a day and start again in a new r. So right now I just need to quell the impatience in me and relax.

You're doing great mate, just keep going

[edz]

Well wasn't planning on contacting w today but realised there's a special card event tomorrow so had to ask is s coming tomorrow or Saturday.

Dropped a simple email saying not chasing yesterday's email but just needed to know about this weekend was s coming tomorrow or Saturday and did he want to go to the card event.

Got a one line "tomorrow is fine" went back as I needed to know is he going to his event (I need to get his Deck sorted and the entrance fee in cash £5) asked was everyone ok and got back fine, why?

So left it that I'm picking him up, not chasing her on his event, I'll assume he's going. Not sure if this is connected with the bank or just a bad day, I'm not assuming.

On finance I'm going to make an appointment to get a new account with od sorted in my name next week after payday and then get everything dd wise transferred then work down from there.

[jim0987]

saying not chasing yesterday's email but

Evening edz

normally you do great with your interactions but just got to pick you up on this ^^^^^^^. when you said that i expect you were trying to put her ease but what you actually said was

'I want to remind you that i sent you an email about finances that you havent responded to yet, and i want you to know that i expect a response'

so easy to do this kind of stuff, the only reason i dont do it constantly is because my STBXW and I barely communicate.

I've not seen one for a while but a few times i've seen both Wonka and 25 do a translations/interpretations of someone's letter or email and they are priceless for understanding how we let our hurts and anguish project even when we are trying not to. If you've not seen it might be worth a bit of hunt round the forum.

[edz]

Hi Jim yes can see how that may be. W is down with me anyway this week which I was expecting after the long chat at the weekend.

I wasn't quite so boiled down in the real email but yes by bringing it up at all it was a reminder, doh. the only reason I want to push this at all is so I can look to straighten out the od this month.

Heyho....

[Sotto]

Edz, don't worry - ups & downs, ebbs and flows. I think it was Starsky said that DBing isn't actually that fragile and can stand up to hiccups pretty well - as long as we don't keep making the same mistakes over and over. Which you don't keep doing of course.

It's hard in that some practical stuff just needs attention - even if your W gets antsy about it. I would just play it straight - friendly and firm - no apologies. It's money and it needed addressing.

Sleet today? Ugh - been a bit grey and wet here, but no sleet thankfully!

[edz]

Hi toots not beating myself up about it, w has put off this stuff since august which baffles me. If I wanted nothing to do with someone the last thing I'd want would be them having financial input apart from agreed payments. Every time I touch things I get an emotional blank though, sigh, anyhoo as you say its got to be done even if I dont totally close that account.

As I say I'm not getting wound up. I can tell this since I replied on Jim's good point I've moped by.. Having a non alcoholic cocktail (which was recommended to me but didn't do much for me) some stretching exercises read some of my book and had a nice bath before settling on the sofa with my throw and bft.

So I'm quite chilled. As per vs signature I'd really like an end to the drama though!

Anyway s is coming tomorrow so cool!

Yup all day has been freezing rain and sleet here ughghghgh felt sorry for the guys putting the new drain in but then I'm not having to pay them!

[Vanilla]

Fins are usually something that has to be dealt with dispassionately and rather more business like I feel.

Bringing emotions and money together is a disaster waiting to happen, I have seen that many times in my business dealings with clients.

Edz you are doing very well.

Enjoy your time with S today.

V

[edz]

Thanks V, said this on your thread but ((((Vanilla)))) will keep you in my thoughts today, take it easy ok?

[edz]

Sooooo today, well was going into the office but had a doctors appointment (routine blood test to track my iron levels nothing interesting) and a call before 9 so wfh as its easier to pick up s tonight (He's off to pokemon / yugigo on the other side of town)

Another 35 reps of the excercise from hell - ow and double ow - still muffinyness, I need a muffinometer to check if that changes or possibly just to revisit the tape measure...nooo not today I think. Attending to some early issues that awaitied me logging in then the coffee is starting to smell good.

One of my team reminded me I have 5 1/2 days leave to take before the end of March or lose them (dont get paid for them if I dont take them) so possibly going to book some time off next week and the week after and take a 6 day break, see if I can get some of s's time and have some fun, remains to be seen who else is off though.

So thats about it for now. Nothing from w since the emails last night. Will drop her a text or mail today on logistics for pickup and whether she needs him back tomorrow or sunday (I'd like to avoid having to check in and I think leaving well alone when I dont need to ping her is probably best).

Mate who set up that dating profile texted me and asked had I thought about it, told him he seems to have an obsession and was he just looking for a double to go out with he and his wife or something! Got a laugh if nothing else. Told him no, not yet, see where this all runs to for a while. I know my impatience wants an end to limbo but I have enough going on to occupy me indeed not yet had time to get to the gym (well that and money until Monday - payday, finally) I do find myself increasingly thinking of a lot of the times we had together, interestingly all in our first 5 years, the more I look at the last few the more I realise limbo didnt just start on bd which is, of course, one of MWD's plancs that this doesnt start on the day the WAS goes, ridiculous how obvious it all is when you look back.

Anyhoo, bit melancholic again (grey skies rain and tired), lots to do before getting s tonight

[Vanilla]

Edz thanks for the hug. Am staying home until tears have subsided and I can get my business head on.

Can you provide a link to the exercise from hell

Is it as bad as kettle balls?

V