Starsky says W will not leave OW until there are consequences for her actions. I am still trying to wrap my mind around what all that means.
Let me clarify, so that you don't misunderstand because this only works in one direction:
IF there are consequences, your wife may OR MAY NOT leave the OW;
however . . .
If there are NO consequences, the only way she will leave OW is if OW dumps her, in which case you're just as likely to be staring down the barrel of an OW2 or an OM1 if you guys haven't fixed your marriage issues.
It's basic physics -- inertia: "A body in motion tends to remain in motion, unless acted upon by an outside force." The thought is that us humans really are basically path-of-least-resistance creatures, and we're not going to do anything until we're either forced to or at least until what we're doing isn't the better option.
