Vanilla, coincidental timing on that question as i had a followup this morning.

So the spectacular answer is that there is no NHS provision in this area for diagnosis in adults of anything in the autism spectrum (ADD, ADHD, Aspergers etc.)

I've been given some links to some online resources so i've had a quick scan of those. some of it is CBT and others is similar to the stuff i've been discussing with my IC. This looks to be something I need to figure out on my own.

As for the loops they are still there and different things can trigger them, but i have got better at side stepping them and/or stepping out of them. the headspace app has really helped with this for me.

sometimes i still get properly stuck though as i havent broken the loops, im just spending less time in them.


General Update:
S1 was fine today, no sign of unwellness. I took the day off to look after him as nursery rules say he cant go in. So i had a nice day playing with my happy little boy. we didnt do much exciting he was just my helper as i did some household sorting - he seemed happy though.

I had a bit of text conversation with W last night only about S1 but it didnt seem as forced on her part. and again a couple of texts today (all initiated by me as i know she would be anxious about S1).

When W collected S1 this evening from my house she was back to not engaging, I wouldnt say anger just incredibly uncomfortable at being anywhere near me. I said hello and was just a bit chatty (nothing forced or intrusive or personal) this seemed to make her more uncomfortable so i left her to it. I noticed that she struggles to even look at me even when she is talking.

I dont think it helped the comfort levels that S1 didnt want to leave and that D3 said she wanted to stay here and was asking when the next daddy day was. Sometimes they do the reverse when i pick them up from hers.

I know its been getting on for 6 months now but i struggle with disbelief, on the one hand that this is all happening and that we arent together, and on the other that we shared a bed and a life at all given how she acts when she is around me.

right finish off the lamb casserole (sorry Gg) and then round to a mates house for the evening.

Last edited by jim0987; 02/19/15 06:47 PM.
Both mid 30s, 2 young kids
BD 7sep14
XW moved on long ago, now living with OM1
D paperwork in progress