Jim0987 #12 - testing out Mk8's new features

[edz]

Im more interested in the Moose that Toots describes, it has Anchors!

Sailing Moooooose Awaaaaay!

[Sotto]

Have you not all heard of the red anchored moose? Lives on the sea bed and eats mainly plankton and mussell shells?

[edz]

Mooose, Mussels ahead, dive dive dive

[jim0987]

Yes, yes it has.

Never heard of a red anchored moose, but meese are generally awesome.

Turns out balloons are beyond the skill level here, but at least they didn't eat the glue. It was fun if messy and we'll have something to paint at the weekend.

Gan, claim its a female moose, a moosette if you will, then its not missing antlers. Just ears.

I know my STBXW enough to know it wasn't the occasion, and she told me indirectly that OM1 was going to be there. he's off and on like a fridge light with her but if thats what she wants....

S1 is still poorly, we are on about 3rd set of clothes so tomorrow off work as well. My wife offered but the agreement says its my responsibility so I'm thinking I'll stay home and enjoy the time with him.

[Vanilla]

I hope like cute mite is much better this evening.

And the big one of course.
V

[Vanilla]

Jim

I have been reviewing on my thread in typical ADD style whether I am on track.

I was examining my notes and reflecting and wondered if you had ever done your review of Wonka posts on possible ADHD or ADD or similar.

I can't find that so would be very keen to have a recap on the results of it. I noted that you were 'looping' thoughts and wondered if you felt that had improved in any way?

V

[jim0987]

Vanilla, coincidental timing on that question as i had a followup this morning.

So the spectacular answer is that there is no NHS provision in this area for diagnosis in adults of anything in the autism spectrum (ADD, ADHD, Aspergers etc.)

I've been given some links to some online resources so i've had a quick scan of those. some of it is CBT and others is similar to the stuff i've been discussing with my IC. This looks to be something I need to figure out on my own.

As for the loops they are still there and different things can trigger them, but i have got better at side stepping them and/or stepping out of them. the headspace app has really helped with this for me.

sometimes i still get properly stuck though as i havent broken the loops, im just spending less time in them.


General Update:
S1 was fine today, no sign of unwellness. I took the day off to look after him as nursery rules say he cant go in. So i had a nice day playing with my happy little boy. we didnt do much exciting he was just my helper as i did some household sorting - he seemed happy though.

I had a bit of text conversation with W last night only about S1 but it didnt seem as forced on her part. and again a couple of texts today (all initiated by me as i know she would be anxious about S1).

When W collected S1 this evening from my house she was back to not engaging, I wouldnt say anger just incredibly uncomfortable at being anywhere near me. I said hello and was just a bit chatty (nothing forced or intrusive or personal) this seemed to make her more uncomfortable so i left her to it. I noticed that she struggles to even look at me even when she is talking.

I dont think it helped the comfort levels that S1 didnt want to leave and that D3 said she wanted to stay here and was asking when the next daddy day was. Sometimes they do the reverse when i pick them up from hers.

I know its been getting on for 6 months now but i struggle with disbelief, on the one hand that this is all happening and that we arent together, and on the other that we shared a bed and a life at all given how she acts when she is around me.

right finish off the lamb casserole (sorry Gg) and then round to a mates house for the evening.

[Sotto]

Jim, sounds like a nice time with daddy's little helper - bless him. Glad he's feeling better. I'll be interested to see how interactions go with your W in coming weeks/months.

I suppose the S was still pretty recent, and so it may all take a little while to settle emotionally. But I feel there must come a point when she 'thaws' and is able to interact with you more naturally. It strikes me that it must be pretty hard to remain this angry? uncomfortable? in the absence of any stressor or precipitating behaviour from you.

Just musing really. Glad to hear you're out for some GAL. Plus you got an endorsement (no not a parking ticket) from Starsky today! Thanks so much for your help :-)

[Ggrass]

Hey, don't be sorry if evey one gave up eating lamb, what's the point of farming!

Yeah, they remain angry for a damn loooong time. I guess bussiness dealings of d make them that way.

Oh well enjoy the good things life has to offer.

[jim0987]

Actually I think its quite easy for her, she's always been great at holding grudges. Plus in her sister and new closest friend she has some pretty toxic characters to feed her.

I am still stressing her but there is nothing I can do about this. I say this becauseI found out how she sees things while I still could access (snoop) her messages.

Pretty much anything I did was labeled in really negative terms. Playing with the kids was 'sickly parenting mood',
questioning a story that didn't make any logical sense was abusive and mean,
asking for more time with the kids was seen as bullying. Actually bothering to be concerned about D3s school application was blackmail,
doing her a favour resulted in a presumption that I would somehow make her pay,
taking 2 days to consult a solicitor was 'pathetic retribution' and my personal favourite - misplaced trousers means I must have stolen them.

So right now I think even saying hello to her is seen as me being controlling and mean. But so would saying nothing.

The lamb was delicious by the way