I read through your post and it strikes me as being so similar to the way my wife probably feels. It is enlightening to see a little more prespective from a LD. One thing stood out at me in your lists of your husbands qualities that attract you:
Quote: Respects my sexual hangups (doesn't ask for bjs, initiates majority of the time, more later...)
From a HD perspective, this is usually the OPPOSITE of what we want in a relationship. Here is what I and many HD men want from our wives, women that LOVE to initiate sex, women that Love to give BJ's, especially without us having to ask. We want women that have no sexual hangups.
If you want to make real deposits into your husbands love band, YOU MUST BE THE AGRESSOR. When the woman is the agressor, the sex counts for about 10x more then when I am the agressor. Womens sexual hangups are THE CAUSE of SSM's.
You truly can not love a man the way he needs until you love his penis. Read the "Secrets about every man that every woman should know". You really do have to get very cozy with a mans penis to have a GREAT marraige.
