Now that I have read your recent post, it seems that nighttime around bedtime are triggers for emotional R talks. To head off those talks, you might want to take a look at the most recent updated Validation: Cheat Sheet for pointers on emotional aikido. This way, you can use those techniques to diffuse the "emotional, hot-button" R talks that goes nowhere.
Also it would not hurt to ask W, "How do you propose that we do about this issue (i.e. lack of connection)? How can I help out in this regard? Any ideas?"
