She then asks me why i never followed through with the plan that was in the book that we were trying out when i got back. it was called "surviving the affair" i said because you could even go two weeks without contacting OM. she instantly says yeah well there was also plan B why did you never follow through with plan B. now plan B is to allow your spouse to go to OM/OW and for you to go totally dark. legally separate and let them find out what was what.
She TOTALLY mischaracterizes what Harley's "Plan B" is! It is NOT to be initiated by the wayward spouse, and its purpose is NOT to "allow" them to go carry on their affair, in some sort of sick "test drive" while the betrayed spouse sits and home and plays "Pick Me!" It is for the BETRAYED spouse -- after a period of being the best-new-them they can possibly be ("Plan A"), to then (if the cheating spouse still refuses to end their affair) go completely pitch-dark on them. I've read the suggested scripts for it, and NOWHERE in there is there ANYTHING that even smacks of "permission" for the cheating spouse to continue cheating!
But then I suppose you already know that. I'm just saying for any others reading along.
It is for the BETRAYED spouse -- after a period of being the best-new-them they can possibly be ("Plan A"), to then (if the cheating spouse still refuses to end their affair) go completely pitch-dark on them. I've read the suggested scripts for it, and 