I imagine you're in the land of nod by now (if not why not you rotten stay up ) but I can understand the above. Its about power and manipulation of emotions to put the onus of the abuse back on the abused.
At the most simplistic I can put it, its not right and its so unfair that feelings get twisted to further peoples need of control. I have no answers and I dont dare presume I know enough to profer advice on avoiding it Gg safe to say you are intelligent and able to spot the signs. Yes I think it may be something that will give you pause on trusting which is why I think the "buffet" is a good idea and getting to know someone regardless of expected outcome will be so good.
Just relax and watch the expectations and also get a reaaaaaaly big box of lego for ms fix it (or send her on her hols with mr fixit then he wont bother me )
Have a good night Gg, catch you later.
M:44, W:46, S:10 M 13 years, T 15 BD:23/7/2014 W/S Moved to MIL: 23/7/2014 My new place: 21/11/2014 W/S back to flat 22/11/2014 W coming closer, talking 4/2015 Piecing 5/2015 Moving in again 6/2015
) but I can understand the above. Its about power and manipulation of emotions to put the onus of the abuse back on the abused. 