Trauma bonding makes the bonding stonger over time. And it's not every min of every day. It's massive incidences. These people are masters of making out because they didn't hit, it's not abuse.
But a one off, fit of rage or temper in which they lost all control making the, human making "mistakes". They uses other to re Inforce the message like h letting brother and s25 to joke about your faults in a way if you object your the bad guy thus the circle continues.
They make you responsible for everything they feel. They set up no win situations. They ask you meet x need then, when you try, it's not right for a million reasons.
Like a poker machine it's pays off just enought to make you think things are ok.
They keep your focus on the small picture and frame the abusvie bits as love and care. The anger when you stand up for your boundary is about I was protecting you because I care. They need you to be concilary for it to work. For you to want to fix and work harder on the r.
And you think if you work harder the good times will return.
M 46 h54 Both married before T 11y Bd 2/14 I must see where ow leads! Ms 18 hs 26
