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It's difficult, I have no time or patience for those that abuse and like others I often wondered why do people stay? However the answer is that it may not seem like abuse at the time or may be an accepted norm or may be that theres no options seen. I'd never try to talk to some of the things people go through as I havent been there but I can understand it to a degree.

Was I in an abuse situation at being ignored in my M? No, not in the same way of course, but I still let it go on and on and on for years until I started to flip out and retreat into myself. I wasnt "abused" as such but I still allowed myself to be unhappy and feel unloved and divert that frustration into retreating and not bonding with my s. It's that easy to just "live" with things. I try not to patronise on this since I havent been in those situations had w been violent or demeaning would I have stayed? I have to concede yes probably, since I love her and would think this was transient and/or I could change her and/or she didnt mean it. Honestly though, I wasnt in that position and I didnt experience it.

Gg you're strong and you recognise what you want, you will find someone who deserves you just keep going and relax and no, dont allow anyone to ever reduce your worth, as I've said before, you're fab