Lou, I just wanted to add my good wishes to you. Having plans really helps.
t is a long and bumpy ride for both parties - trust me on this. For the longest time I thought he was having the best time. Actually they aren't, and also it doesn't matter anyway.
We get through this, and we grow up and mature into amazing people. You are doing so well - taking responsibility for yourself, not blaming others, and moving forward with your life.
MLCers have a variety of stratagems for getting through this, but they do not usually involve taking any responsibility for what is going on.
They may be 'nice' to us or mean and vengeful. However one thing I have learned is that in a weird way we remain their emotional anchor, and everything they do is in reference to us. Sometimes they or we break the bond, but often not, and so they 'check-in' periodically.
