Wouldn't you rather he see your value and want you back because he came to that place himself?
Yes. Definitely.
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And if he is dysfunctional enough to see leaving as a viable option, would you ever trust that life could stay good enough for you to feel safe in the marriage?
Probably not. I never felt totally safe. It would take a LOT for me to trust him again... and that certainly wouldn't happen if I cajoled or guilted him into coming back. He SHOULD want me, d@mmit! I am awesome!! And if he doesn't see my value, especially after all this!? F him.
(see... when I go that route, I feel anger creeping in.)
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Sometimes I think you're wishing for him to be someone he's just not.
Yep. Yep, yeppity yep. I think I always did.
So... let go of anger and contempt, have compassion, stay strong and detached, co-parent amicably and collaboratively... Wow. That's no small feat. If I pull it off, Claire v2.0 is going to be f'ing AMAZING. And I WILL pull it off.
