Thank you Dan, I appreciate you stopping by with your words of wisdom

It's not so much that I think H ought to be able to provide, because he does! I'm going to work on an updated budget, (part of my therapy homework) and see what spending can be decreased. I've been trying to encourage him to quit smoking for years now to no avail. Not having any expectations is a hard thing to do. It makes perfect sense, but how in the world am I supposed to do that without feeling resentful?
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...so over time she felt like she had to repress her true personality to "keep the peace". Now, she has snapped out of that pattern and the pendulum has swung her all the way into a torrid affair.


Interesting. I said something very similar to my sex therapist in one of my last sessions. I told her I felt as if my spirit was being broken and I'm not being true to myself. BTW, this was in regards to our differences in opinion on various issues, NOT sex.
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Good luck Pam...I hope that you can find some quality in your counseling and I hope that you and your H can find the center soon. Love to you!


Thank you, I hope so too. Our counseling (hmmm $1,000 since Dec ) seems to be focused on better communication at the moment. *sigh* I wish I could just snap my fingers. Thanks for the love too!

Pam