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I'm going to second Wonka's suggestion of finding a MC that follows Gottman. I'm very familiar with his work and style of therapy. It is aimed at building a relationship from the ground up. He focuses on things such as communication, problem-solving, expressing feelings, conflict (recognizing and using repair attempts is something a lot of couples miss), and general maintenance of the relationship. He is a proponent of the love bank that you hear referenced all over the forums and believes in a ratio of 5:1 good vs bad interactions. The success rate of following Gottman, who constantly conducts research, is high when the couple commits to follow the strategies involved.