Post retreat situation

[Marylov]

In the book it says to do it if you are physically separated. We are soon to be.

Also, I feel like going dark would be a 180 from being attentive, which hasn't been working. I think being kind is making me seem weak. He has been pushing my buttons, staying out all night, getting drunk. My kindness seems to be having no affect. Like I said, it was only after I had a come to Jesus talk with him about moving forward with our separation (he has been living at home despite wanting to move out) that he sent me the first nice text he has in a long time & decided to go see someone about his depression. So I'm not trying to read his mind but I am trying to monitor what is working. It seems like maybe my conversation where I acted like I was okay with the separation and actually eager to get it started helped him realize what is happening. Or maybe it didn't because last night he got plastered and ignored a text I sent him. What a mess