Thanks Starsky. I have no independent intel in place. Since I moved out in July I haven't 'snooped' as such. Although I do a little 'tabletop browsing' when I visit our FH 2 hours away. So, I guess it's do nothing for now on the A front..

I don't think restating my boundary on OW is needed right now as H is actually telling me we're done and kind of asking me, are we done? And kind of reaching out?

I'm seeing my L next week & will respond to H query about selling the house which we bought and own 50/50. I'm glad that's come up from him as I didn't want to force that issue due to impact on SS14. But if it has come from H, he can 'own' that one, and it will certainly help my finances.

Having done a 'holding' email on the house and R stuff, I'll also start thinking about a response to those. BTW, the joke above is in response to H telling me he was just made redundant yesterday, and a bunch of other stuff about the A being 'stupid' and he'd forgotten what was important....etc..

T 13 M 7
Me 48 H 46
SS 15
BD 7.14 PA
D final 5.16 (H filed)

We receive & we lose, and must try to achieve gratitude & embrace with whole hearts whatever of life that remains after the losses - Dubus