The next time W brings this sort of thing up, I'd say:
"I can see why you would think that. To me, I think it's important that we BOTH have separate interests and common interests. That is the foundation in a healthy marriage. I am comfortable with going to Church because I enjoy it. You don't have to agree with it and that's okay with me."
Smile and walk away.
Good to hear from you Wonka! Been a while.
That's a good way to put it.
I know where she's coming from on this. My parents are very religious (Dad's a pastor) and in her mind me being involved in a church makes me too much like them. She has the same hangup about golf. Anything that I do or say that reminds her of them freaks her out. To me golf is a chance to go out with my buddies, drink, smoke cigars, cuss, and maybe get the ball in the hole once in a blue moon. To her it's me trying to be like my hated parents.
The way you put it is better than what ran through my mind. Basically I told her that I was committed to working on my shortcomings but I refused to kowtow to her prejudices. Maybe a little more direct than I should have been, but keeping my tone under control was an issue at the time.
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Sometimes if you want to see a change for the better, you have to take things into your own hands - Clint Eastwood
