I can really see your point. And I have been doing that. It seems if I detach to much, things don't go well. I guess I am confused on that also. The one thing she told me that bothered her is how I did not pay enough attention to her in the past. I thought I was. But she felt otherwise. I thought doing a 180 for me would be showing her how much I love her and care for her. There are 2 things that make me uncomfortable about her sleeping in her room. One, it ends up being like that forever. Two, she works in her room all night. She works from home at night. On the phone. Which I have been uncomfortable with since she started doing it. It has caused quite a few fights between us.
Me:44 EXW 44 Wonderful Children M11, T14 BD 6/14 OM Confirmed Divorce Final 2/25/16 "It works if you work it!"
