Life 2.0 Pt 5

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I'm still dancing too much to her tune; reacting too much to what she says at the time. When she gets to this state my natural reaction is to try to "sell" her on what I want out of life and the good things in our relationship. I know that's neediness talking. She's going on 2.5 months of NC with OM. I believe that we're in piecing, so the "no R talk" rule I don't think applies anymore. I'm just trying to figure out how to be warm and open when I engage with her without being supplicating.

That's the thing about our issues. Sometimes they're huge to her, sometimes they're not. Last week she told me that one of our preexisting issues was not that big a deal; that she had reached some peace with it. This week it was back to being our biggest problem.