I am so terribly sorry about your FIL. I hope your D is doing okay as it is such a blow for them. And I agree with Maybell. I say this with compassion as well...you are stuck on "why won't he?" or "how can he?" I will answer. Because he can and he doesn't want to. It doesn't make him a bad human being, although he is probably not the kind of person you want to be with unless he was willing to do the work. He does not appear to be there yet and he may never be.
Keep focusing on you. You have addressed so many things to make your life full and wonderful. Keep focusing on you and D. You are a smart, wonderful, caring lady and there are many good things in store for you.
Take care:)
3 kids BD 12/15/13 (IDKIILY. ) Rope dropped Cirque du Soleil style D final 9-9-14 "Some people are born on 3rd base and go through life thinking they hit a triple." Barry Switzer
