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[edz]

Hi Gg

Nothing to be sorry about, you can tell us exactly as much as you feel comfortable doing. No one here can ask you to do more than that. Telling close friends / trusted people is precisely the right thing to do. I dont think any of us on here have told everything, I certainly havent gone into all the details as you've seen regarding "thing" somethings just arent open for a discussion on a forum as open as this.

As long as you have some people you can talk about them to I dont think thats anything to be apologetic about, I always respect peoples privacy, always

As to H's behaviour, well I think you know my feelings and I cant and wont defend that kind of behaviour from a spouse let alone the families response.

Indeed you should hold onto your values and self worth Gg, I (as Ive said so many times) had nowhere near the same sitch but I suppressed what I wanted and what would make me happy for many years as I thought I was doing the right thing, that blew up in my face as no one, anyone, can take suppressing who they are indefinitely and stay well balanced and happy something always has to give. All relationships (well, longer term ones) are a compromise of some sort as they are (peskilly at present) with other humans not a perfect android of all our desires, hopes and needs. Even if they were those change as we do so we'd still compromise or constantly upgrade.

We compromise but if only one partner does so its no longer healthy. Hold onto your core values and you'll be happy, thats the plan anyway.

Anyway, by my station keepers watchits after, good lord! 1AM your time!

Have a good night, catch you later.

Edz