Tootling along.

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Thanks so much everyone. I'm doing okay actually - pretty calm. I think the idea of responding to the job situation warmly, with a holding response on the rest, is a good one. I'll post a draft response a bit later. If you can keep the advice coming, I'd be grateful - it's really helping.

Thinking further about it, it's a bit funny to get made redundant on Tuesday, and then suddenly decide you need to resolve your 'long standingly in limbo' marital situation on Wednesday morning. Why add more stress to your life right now?

So, I think H might be in a bit of a flat spin, and I need not to get caught up in making huge decisions and 'resolving' things right now. I'm due to see the L in any case next week and I can update her and discuss implications of positive house sale. I'll do that before I respond to him on the house.

I agree that in a way it feels like he's reaching out, but also that he's telling me it's the end, but is he? Does he want this to be a mutual decision? Part of me just wants to say - look, are you asking me for a divorce here? But of course I won't....

Thanks for your support my friends :-)