Hi Toots, as you are well aware I'm very far from a vet but he comes my thoughts.
Based on the email your H is very confused, he just lost his job and is obviously not over the moon with his new life.
For me, the part about R being over can be taken both ways, yes he is moving forward but not sure what that holds. I can also see him reaching out somewhat. I would take things very slowly now and would not be looking for any talk about R. Again, for me, he seems to be looking at his own sitch with fresh eyes. Getting laid off nust be very hard and unless he has a heart of stone, his personal life must be causing him pain. As I have said before, my own W can breeze into the house with a smile and good form and call me on the phone 10 mins later crying her eyes out.
I don't see any big change in your sitch other than H now has money worries on top of the rest of his troubles. You know about my stars and planet theory and his email is full of stars.
Nothing really changed except he is saying he made mistakes and loads of stars. Now the stars are to be ignored in my opinion but and its a big but, that email contains load of positive stars and if your going to see stars, better they are positive.
Again, for me, don't react, give yourself time to process what he said and give him time to process the loss of his job.
