*He was made redundant yesterday *He'd known it might happen (industry downturn) *He's started looking, but may be out of work for a while *He thinks we should start selling the family home *He can't maintain house and flat in longer term *We should figure out what to do & do it together
*Last year he did something very stupid *He's still very sorry that he hurt me *He forgot what was important in life and got all caught up in something *I'm a special person and he's never been as happy again as he was with me *But, he doesn't think we can ever go back now *Hard as it is to say, he needs to tell me he'll continue into a new stage in his life now *But he doesn't know what it holds for him
So, I guess he's now told me what he's been telling others for a while - our R is over. I'm not sure how to respond and need to think about it.
I can say how sorry I am about his job. I can agree for the house to be sold. I'll see if I can have the pets. He still hasn't (ever) mentioned D, so how do I deal with that? I can tell him that our R ending isn't what I want, but if this is what he wants, I respect and accept that.
I still don't know status of A. But I wonder if this is a chance for he and I to team up and have some more contact in selling/clearing the house. For me to be a supportive friend to him whilst things are tough. But maybe I'm off beam thinking this. What do you think DBers please?
T 13 M 7 Me 48 H 46 SS 15 BD 7.14 PA D final 5.16 (H filed)
We receive & we lose, and must try to achieve gratitude & embrace with whole hearts whatever of life that remains after the losses - Dubus
