So, still living in this alternate universe. W was up early this morning. When I woke sometime after her, she complained about me being lazy. I reminded her of all the work I had done the day before incl. cooking the dinner, watching D7, starting fireplace for W as she has cold as well as getting D7 & S5 to bed (utilizing some validation techniques).
Had a blow up re D7 going out to play in the snow without socks. I told D7 to get socks on before heading out. W heard me calling D7 inside after she ran out without socks. W took it upon herself to tell D7 no socks were needed despite daddy's directive. So, D7 ends up being confused. And I look like the bad guy for ensuring D7 complies with directive. This sort of contradicting has been going on for some time between W and me and has been a major source of aggravation.
An hour later, upon my suggestion, whole family went out sledding. All had great time. Then kids went to school and me to work. W had off today (if past behavior is an indicator, likely met up with AP for lunch or who knows what). W calls on my way to work - mainly just to chat - all friendly on a number of levels.
When I arrived home, found some food to eat and then was interacting with kids. W says she is turning in, that I should do a project with D7 & S5, wash them and get them to bed and read a book (all after 7:50 PM, incl. shoving some food in my face). I asked her help to wash them at least (she had day off), but she says I wanted to watch kids (think she was alluding to my offer to watch all 3 kids at our house and have her move out so she can live her fantasy). She is acting like this is some trial period that she is taking notes on, but in reality she is just squirreling herself in her room (and perhaps texting AP). I see this move largely as a cop out - her way to avoid pitching in. Whatever.
So, despite nice conversation (interspersed with some name calling, arguing or nastiness on occasion), still little affection coming from W. Would like to optimize nice interactions but still make clear that A is intolerable. Just trying to walk fine line between demonstrating that her man is (and always has been right in front of her) and not being a slave or A-whipping boy.
