TLEE,

So reading the post, I see a couple things that may be silver linings.

1) She gave you a playbook on what your 180's should be (although you probably already know them)

2) She realizes and admits she's lost in what to do right now. That is a HUGE step for a WAS.

3) She's realized that she's searching for something that she has not yet found. Another big step for a WAS

4) She's gotten out of her fog to the extent that she's not projecting all of her problems as a fault of yours

I know that this letter must have stunk to read it. But, it just confirms that you are able to understand the situation that you are in. Now that Ranger school is over (that's hardcore) maybe she'll realize that life will settle down. Not that it helped in the end, but W and I both worked. We used to say that we would do 3-6 month stints of being busy, traveling, over-stressed, etc. It was really effective for us as we didn't have the other person compromise too much of their lives. (this changed once we had kids as there was no 'down-time')

It sounds like school took a toll on her and now she's trying to make the next part her time to experience stuff. It's not the right way to do it, but I guess it would help me understand overall what happened.

Last edited by MCS; 02/18/15 04:29 AM.
M:36 W:37
T: 15 M:11
S6 D5
BD: 8/10/14
IDLY: 8/12/14
S: 8/13/14 (she left, I stayed w/ kids)
D Mentioned: 10/15/14
Confronted about OM: 10/15/14
EA: ~4/13 PA: ~10/13
She filed: 8/15 (not final)