my wife doesnt personally know nor has ever met the other woman. I have never seen not contacted the other woman since.
This other women is from where i used to live growing up so my wife contacted a mutual friend who still lives there to find out who she is.
Think we got lost in translation as far as it being my wifes friend. this is not the case
Fair enough but yet, you said this:
Youve got me 25, i am down playing my own infideilty. People i have told about what is going on know full well what i have done. Im ashamed and feel guilty about what i have done. The truth is that i am struggling to reconcile what ive done with what my wife is still doing. i suppose this is where me taking responsabilty for my own actions comes in.
Did your wife tell others about it and if so, how'd you feel then? Why'd you tell others?
BTW, I don't think it's bad that you did, as long as it didn't further embarrass your wife. But what do you mean about reconciling what you did, with what she is?
Do you feel like it has to be "even", at some subconscious level? B/C if you do, I'd have to wonder if your w felt the same thing. Like she has a "free pass" on an affair b/c of yours.
Then again, does it matter? It only matters in the sense that it MIGHT mean she'll learn a lesson faster. Time will tell.
So, back to your basics. What are the 180's you are striving to do?
And GAL? We hammer it here b/c it works. Seriously. Let's get back to You...
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