I laughed when I read this -- my W is a HUGE fan of spreadsheets!
She won't be if you do that. Not saying don't...just you know...if you punch someone in the face you should expect a fight. You present her a spreadsheet of her sucking as a parent...you know...fight.
Jer if you had detachment 100% down, I'd be worried that your lying or had a little OW on the side. : )
As for the kids. Keep up the good work, remember that you are their support not the other way around. You do not lean on them you do not involve them they are not adults. They are't spies or allies. One parent is screwing them up enough right?
Experience is a brutal teacher, but you learn. My God, do you learn. - C.S. Lewis
Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B. - Jack3Beans
Listen without defending; Speak without offending - FaithinAK
