I think that when someone has so little to offer emotionally, they try to compensate for it in other ways. It is usually a pathetic attempt, but it is the best they can offer.
My W is a SAHM. She has a small home business that has barely made a penny in 2 years. Yet whenever she puts a deposit in the bank, usually a pittance, she sends me a text to let me know. I always feel like she is saying: "See how kind I am? Don't hate me for what I am doing to you". It is the best she can do. Our spouses need to believe that they are behaving decently.
