I'm sure she tried to talk to me( I may even remember a few times) and I also own and placed several bricks in that wall, lol . I think you're awesome BTW, your insight is dead on from where I sit! I understand, the last few weeks I have been desperate to talk. I know she saw that.Even saying to me at one point a week or so ago, "I know you want to talk about everything." She tried to shut me down on that occasion because I went into the R stuff. God, I was a complete wreck and still am but am making progress!
I really was being honest and being empathetic yesterday, I know it shocked her(I'm shocked she is even talking to me) and thus her reaction. She even mocked me. I will try not to overkill, and not engage, but still be engaging if she chooses to. What's odd is I'd start with something generally mundane, "How was your day?" or something similar but she's gone off on several tangents R talk, or work, or this woman at work who drives her crazy, weekend plans, etc. Each time, I'm doing my best to be attentive and yes, maybe I am trying to hard some times, but it is genuine underneath that. This is uncharted for me too because she hasn't really talked to me in a long time.
I've been trying to do it in a way that is friendly and non threatening and no R talk unless she does. I think it's working, she text'd me today, which she never does, asking me how my day is going, beating me to the punch!! I started this limited last week, just saying hi, etc. Today was the first day she did it first! Small, small, baby step... I know... be cool!
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. I think you're awesome BTW, your insight is dead on from where I sit! I understand, the last few weeks I have been desperate to talk. I know she saw that.Even saying to me at one point a week or so ago, "I know you want to talk about everything." She tried to shut me down on that occasion because I went into the R stuff. God, I was a complete wreck and still am but am making progress!
