Seperated, she is with someone - I'm desperate (2)

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Thanks Wet. Yes I think she wants to talk based on her current emotional state and probably to push me for filing so she can open up to people about her relationship and have it be ok since we are D. I suspect she is trying to find out how to continue her relationship with OM and make it public which is a hurt unto itself.

I don't know this for sure bit since she isn't talking to me either right now it certainly isn't to talk about anything good.

I would rather hold off on any discussions not centered around the kids for now although I do need to figure out taxes and need to discuss that with her soon.

Before we do eventually meet I will want to know the topics if possible to be prepared but maybe waiting a couple weeks will let some emotions die down...idk.

I swear everytime I start feeling I can handle things is when I hear from her and get all riled up. She is so ingrained in her life of spending every evening at the bar and with her new friends and OM. I really think she has an addiction to alcohol and that she would need to see this and get help in order for her to see things any differently. I also know I can't help her and it must be something she does on her own, just wish there was someone that would talk and encourage her in that direction.

I realize i need to be talking about me and what I can control and that I can't and shouldn't try to fix her. I know I can't but wish she would see a way to fix herself as not only does it mean no chance at R but it's also a huge health concern and i want more for her.

No what I want does not matter, bit yes it's extremely difficult to watch someone you love in trouble even if they don't recognize it.