Journaling some more: As the dissolution court date approaches I am considering a few options I have. WAW said we needed to go to counseling to figure out the shared parenting and I agreed 100%. This has never happened. I have reminded her a few times and even offered to make the arrangements. After she had her AP spend the night when the boys and their friend were there I started thinking that if she did not get the counseling set up, I would request court ordered mediation. WAW and I were both raised to beleive this was immoral and we were raising our boys that way too. I want to get an unbiased outside opinion. Part of me wants to hold her accountable. Part of me says to just take care of my side of the street. These issues are VERY tricky to navigate when it comes to children. I think I want to mediation to make sure we are on the same page on a lot of issues. I also think I want the mediation because she has not "done the work" and still continues to poison our interactions with anger, selfishness, attacks, and not being able to stick to one topic. I know we would all benefit from the mediation. Part of me does NOT want the mediation because it will slow down the dissolution. I need the dissolution to be finished in order to get properties transfered into my name and to lock in the settlement amount and 50-50 parenting. Financially I am going to survive with the agreement I have. If I stop the dissolution for mediation, it gives her that much more time to drop the dissolution and file for D and change custody, asset split, and CS.
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M42 W40 T17 M15 S13 S11 BD 7-14 A discovered 7-14 WAW moved out 10-3-14 D final 2-23-15
