My H was (is) a train wreck..... those who have been around more than a year will most likely say his cheating/walking out on me had NOTHING to do with our marriage and my part in its "breakdown" BUT I still had work to do. I was not a bad wife but I could always be a better person.
My point is no matter how "right" you are and how "wrong" your spouse is the focus is to make you an even more incredible person and there is ALWAYS room to do that.
Me: 35 husband:39 Sons 16 and 11 from my first marriage Twins 5 (boy/girl) Daughter 3 Affair bomb 2/27/14 He moved in with ow 3/13/14 OW kicked him out 6/15/14 4/2016 he seeks help for sexual addiction