The behavior that you show at the moment can be revealing of how you got here. A lot of people are encouraging you to calm down, more than for any other LBH on these boards. Acknowledge that this is your problem. You talk of door slamming before DB; that can be a big deal. I've done it once in the last year and my W was traumatized.
Read people like Vanilla who show a great deal of calm in the face of outrageous behavior and after having been a "screaming banshee" by her own admission. Follow her sitch daily, see how she reacts.
When you have a moment of calm, write down a plan. What do you need to do for your sitch and your life to improve. Some suggestions.
1. Avoid fights with W by leaving the room. 2. Avoid all R talks with W. 3. Make daily GAL plans. 4. Etc.
Then, follow the plan. We all have our pet peeves (MrBond can't stand posters who haven't read DB/DR) and mine is people who promise to DB, do the opposite, and then come here to confess and justify. It's useless. Come here to plan, go to execute, come back to report.
One last thing: focus on the outcome. Do not expect your W to communicate a certain way, mind only the outcome. You want X? If she gives you X while spitting on you, say "Thank you". You're setting up yourself for failure and frustration by hoping to control how she communicates with you.
M39 D6 D3 (at S) S 2014-09 D 2016-09
"You can't start a fire sitting around, crying over a broken heart" - Bruce Springsteen.
