Ok, so I had a dump of information on W that I was not prepared for. One of W's sisters (SiL), who is W's confidant, called me this morning. The reason for the call was what appears to be the soon-to-be death of W/SiL's mother, and I am an attorney and I could explain how things should work.
So the main reason it appears why SiL called was to let me know that the funeral would be at the same church where W and I were married. This is not a problem for me, but then I asked the deadly question - "is W seeing someone serious?" I asked so that I was prepared if W showed up to the funeral with some guy on her arm.
SiL said that W is not seeing anyone serious, that it appears to her that W sabotages anyone who tries to get too serious. But W still dates. There may be "3 or 4" guys she regularly dates. But the main thing W is worried about now is getting a job and making a living.
I asked SiL how she was doing, and she broke down. It is a very emotional time for SiL. Mom-in-Law (MiL) is a great woman, everone loves her, and she is a very strong, very intelligent, very much a faith-filled woman, and always giving herself to the charities/work that she was involved in. And I have always gotten along well with her.
OK here is a funny line from MiL about me - she once said that she sees me as being a Catholic priest one day. My W was upset when she heard this, because she said that meant that W would have to die first! MiL's response? Whatever must be, must be!
I gave SiL some advice on making sure her parent's Revocable Trusts were funded, and then the convo was over.
I don't know why I feel bad about learning that W has several guys she is still dating. I should feel good that there is no one serious in W's life, and that apparently the serious guy from last year is out of the picture. Maybe its the health battle MiL is going thru, maybe its the thought of other guys holding/dating (and other things, I'm not that naďve)) my W. Maybe its the disappointment that W is not progressing more quickly thru whatever it is that she is going thru (ya know, I think its MLC). But its hard to keep the focus on myself when W's mother, and all of her family along with her, is going thru MiL's end stage of her life. Sigh.
