I do have a db coach and I am doing what he says. I have read the DR Book and I am trying to implement that. There were a lot of things I found out about me that I didn't like and I am trying to fix me right now but she keeps going to his house. Last night she started getting text from some random number telling her that she was with this OM and my wife doesn't believe it. She actually blames me for her getting the text I was in bed watching the ball game. I mean last night I came home cooked dinner for the kids went to the GYM and came back home so I could watch the game. There are a lot of things this person told her that I had no clue about, but Im still getting the blame. I completely understand that this is by her own doing (the affair that is) and I understand that my marriage is dead. I want to start with a clean slate and move forward but somehow he is giving her something that I couldn't and I can't figure out what that is. When she does come home to see the children she is always on the phone texting him or talking to him with total disregard of the children. I have set boundries I have told her that when she does come home I would appreciate it if she wouldn't wear the necklace and earrings he gave her or the hoodie he gave her (only because I can't get away from it for one day) I told her she was being very disrepectful to me and the children wearing that suff. When the kids asked her where she got the necklace and earrings she told them she found it. They just looked at me. They know whats going on but now they are starting to resint her. what do I do? I am trying to have patients but they are thinning.
