I'm sorry things are feeling tough right now. I still think it would be best if you can shift your focus from what your W is doing to yourself. She will do what she will do right now. And probably none of it is going to be in favour of your M right now. It may help you to just accept that (awful) reality right now. You don't like it, but it is what it is.
Fighting against it all doesn't help your sitch and it doesn't help you. You've woken up feeling rough this morning. But that doesn't mean this has to be a bad day okay? What you do or don't do can transform your day - no matter what your W is up to - you can choose not to be so affected by it, really you can.
BTW, your W's family knowing may be no bad thing. It is one of the consequences of having an A. This may be the point where you are glad you weren't the one to tell them, but they eventually got to know as usually happens.
Now, I would love to see your next post being about the things you did today to self-soothe and get yourself back onto a steadier track, despite challenges in your sitch and having had a bad night. Because if you can do that for yourself today. You know that you can do that other days, and it's a really important skill to have - to become more resourceful and resilient no matter what your W is doing.....which is exactly what we would expect a WAS to do BTW....
Hope you have a good day my friend x
T 13 M 7 Me 48 H 46 SS 15 BD 7.14 PA D final 5.16 (H filed)
We receive & we lose, and must try to achieve gratitude & embrace with whole hearts whatever of life that remains after the losses - Dubus
