Hi Train and Cadet - thank you for your notes. I will review the links that Cadet has provided. I will also read some more chapters in DR.
As for Train's question re cozy in bed, yes, we are still sleeping in the same bed (W did say at one point that I should sleep in other room, but I refused).
Not that cozy - our youngest D2 as well as other kids in the past sleeps between us. I did try to cuddle a bit last night but W did not reciprocate.
I know that I am asking for more pain by continuing on like this but am having trouble determining the appropriate course of action. I was making strides at GD but faltered (about same time W started talking about future/seemed like she was confused as to her intent). Even last night W talking about installing flood light and planting seeds this spring (which kinda contradicts the whole sell the house/D thing). I even bought an iPad because she told me she would not let me use hers because I was addicted. I figured that if she won't let me use hers and will be moving out, makes sense that I get one. Yesterday, she told me I should return it as I can use hers.
Also, yesterday she calls telling me how busy work is and how sick she feels - looking for sympathy which I want to give her (want to give her all my love), but there is this A going on, right.
I am in a place where I desperately want to but cannot believe anything.
I know that she is at least continuing contacting AP (probably not meeting that frequently of late though - although W has off today). I see that she is taking mini showers in the morning (ensuring she is fresh) - something new.
I want to establish boundaries but want my W too (the old one - not this cold one).
What sort of boundaries / other course of action would you suggest?
