KGirl - letting the past go

[KGirl]

Seriously, though.. am I being really unreasonable by asking him to take out a bank loan (with I'm sure a high interest rate) or dip into his retirement funds to pay me the equity in a lump sum? If we spread it out over payments.. I really don't want that to be more than a year, tops. Which is probably like $600 a month and I don't know that he'd even have that much extra money each month, anyway. Maybe I need to see his financial disclosure statement first to see what's going on (like how much does he actually have in his retirement accounts, because I really don't know, or what his salary even is today). Am I being crazy by asking him to set up a direct deposit into my checking account at his work if he does do monthly payments? I don't want to worry about whether or not checks will come and seeing his handwriting on them for a full year after D is final. And given all of the issues we had with him not switching bills over this past summer/fall (some of you may remember that fiasco), I just don't trust him to actually send me the check every month.