Ganb8te 5 - Escaping the abyss

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My only comment is that approach B - which doesn't seem unreasonable by the way - inevitably needs you to be ready to hear a cold truth.

Ah, but there is a B.1 and B.2
B.1 is generating doing what I am doing now but trying to initiate a bit more contact. Maybe suggest a meetup and while we are out say "you know, there's a ton of cool stuff on lately, what would you say if I called you up every now and then and suggested we go to something?"
B.2 is initiating contact, with the aim of asking where he stands on things. Has he made his mind up, does he need more time? What does he plan come June when we can file?

Just a little question. Is your H an 'avoider' by nature?

Oh yes. Yes he is. BIG time. He's an avoider plus he's stubborn.

I had to laugh the other day. I was reading Labug's threads again and she said of her H "He likes to describe himself as being stubborn, like that’s a good thing." When my H and I were doing some personal development work a few years ago, he said something very similar.

I shouldn't talk though, I'm also stubborn (not an avoider though). My stubbornness means that I achieve things long after many people would give up - I do think that is a good quality.