Jim, I think there may be chinks of light in your W's interactions. Maybe things just needed to settle a bit after S and she will warm a little. Sounds like you should carry on your current track.
Cute! Nice to get a compliment from a lady.....girls love the 'boy next door' look...
T 13 M 7 Me 48 H 46 SS 15 BD 7.14 PA D final 5.16 (H filed)
We receive & we lose, and must try to achieve gratitude & embrace with whole hearts whatever of life that remains after the losses - Dubus
Boy next door I can do, less so on the macho rugby type. still cute kind of works for me and you have to use what you've got (only really realising this since BD though)
So tomorrow is a bonus day with S1, sort of. He was ill at nursery and so cant go in tomorrow and so im taking the day off to look after him. hopefully he isnt too bad and we can have some quality 1:1 time.
bit of a 'confused' communication with W about this. she texted me about it first but only waited about 3 minutes before calling me. in the text she said she had S1 but on the call she was just leaving to get him. She gave me some story about why she couldnt take the day off (the agreement says it should be her) and asked if i would. I had to check my diary but then said i would make arrangements so i could. W appreciated this.
the whole conversation bugged me afterward because her reason for not being able to look after S1 is a work thing which OM1 will be at and in all likelihood based on previously similar work things means drunken night out afterward resulting in W and OM1 ending up in bed together. If things had cooled between them which prior to her moving out i got the sense it had then this is fresh opportunity for her to pursue him (again).
It shouldnt bug me, and in someways its bugged me a lot less than in the past but it still grates. I do find myself wanting to just straight out ask her about OM1 so at least I know.
BUT, in reality I shouldnt care because the more important thing is that I get S1 for an extra day.
Both mid 30s, 2 young kids BD 7sep14 XW moved on long ago, now living with OM1 D paperwork in progress
Originally Posted By: jim0987 on Toots thread today
Hi Toots
Hope you've had a good evening with your mum.
As vanilla said, what your H said only has to affect your relationship with your friend if you choose to let it. H could be saying all sorts of things to all sorts of people, testing how it feels for him, testing what gets him a particularly reaction or equally his mood may be as variable as our weather.
I wonder whether we spend so long thinking about what our WAS' are thinking and doing and what they want that sometimes we dont take long enough to really think about we want.
Answers can be hard so maybe start with what the questions really are for you right now.
Hmmmm,
Jim I know which caring and insightful DBer posted this.
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Freedom is just another word for nothing left to loose. V 64, WAW
W dropped off S1. He seems fine and is currently stuffing his face with sultanas.
Saw D3 briefly, got a hug and an 'I missed you daddy' from her. Always nice that she us happy to see me
Limited warmth from W, Id say somewhere around freezing. I would also say she seemed stressed rather than angry. previously she has resented asking me to help in any way so I expect thats a factor.
I complimented her old coat which she can now fit back into and wished her a good day.
Again just kind of logging it.
S1 is now demanding a story. I think its going to be a good day
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Both mid 30s, 2 young kids BD 7sep14 XW moved on long ago, now living with OM1 D paperwork in progress
See, the bit of me that remembers geography knows that, the big chunk that thinks of Australia as always being very very hot forgets. -23 is cold enough to have the bravest of Brass Monkeys looking worried!
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M:44, W:46, S:10 M 13 years, T 15 BD:23/7/2014 W/S Moved to MIL: 23/7/2014 My new place: 21/11/2014 W/S back to flat 22/11/2014 W coming closer, talking 4/2015 Piecing 5/2015 Moving in again 6/2015
Well G I dont want to earn a cyber stalker pass so Im not posting anything details wise but cross referencing the low temps can give a good idea on general areas.
Not going into detail on how as I may be getting into Gg's privacy there
M:44, W:46, S:10 M 13 years, T 15 BD:23/7/2014 W/S Moved to MIL: 23/7/2014 My new place: 21/11/2014 W/S back to flat 22/11/2014 W coming closer, talking 4/2015 Piecing 5/2015 Moving in again 6/2015