I feel shame when I read the above article Ontheup as I am the person that ratted out W to her parents. And no matter where we look, we can find an article that says both sides. I told W's parents before I even knew about this place. But that link you provided about the cycle of an affair said that the family's pressure has something there but the spouse has none. The family wouldn't know unless someone told them. IDK.
I read your story every day. For inspiration for me, education, and I want to tell you, keep it up sir. Your work on you is fantastic and reminds me to go swimming again tomorrow morning
Hey 4
You did what you thought was best at the time. Ive done loads of stuff i look back on and wish i hadnt. everyone does. There is a lot of information some of it very conflicting so yes its hard to know what to do for the best partly why i have gone to see a marriage councilor. Im sticking to what im doing which is detaching completly from the situation. My wife and AP are in a hole. A very deep one. Dont think i need to be in that hole bashing her over the head with a shame stick. Im sure she already feels shame and guilt even though she doesnt show it. Its just my story. Im no expert in what to do and have no magic wand but it helps me by posting and reading others. Glad it helps you. Yes definatley get out swimming.
Me:40 W:35 D:8 T:13 M:10 WAW: 7/14 PA Discovered: 1/15 at least 6 months Moved out and moved on